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One Life Only Counseling Services

Counseling for Individuals, Couples, and Families

Do you need counseling for depression, anxiety, trauma, relationship (marriage, family) problems, insomnia, anger management problems, infidelity, teen parenting issues, grief processing, addiction, procrastination, work performance, and even weight issues?

We are here to provide you with evidence-based approaches that are backed by reliable and valid scientific research!

We provide both in person and online video counseling for your convenience.

Please text (preferred) or call:

Mobile Number: +63 917 886 5433 (LIFE)

Available also on Viber and WhatsApp!

(The best option is to message this number through Viber or WhatsApp and we will gladly call you back or reply!)

Email:

info@onelifeonly.net

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Our offices are located in Quezon City, Metro Manila, Philippines.

CMS Clinic

2nd Floor Back to the Bible Building

135 West Avenue, Quezon City, Metro Manila, Philippines

and

M Place South Triangle

8004 Mother Ignacia Avenue, Quezon City, Metro Manila, Philippines

Discussing sunk cost fallacy with Pia, Daiana, and Emma on Kada Umaga, Net 25 last July 16, 2025
Nathan Chua spoke with Pia Guanio Mago about parenting on Net 25’s Kada Umaga, June 2025
Interview with Chinkee Tan and Christine Bersola-Babao on MagBadyet Tayo about financial conflicts in relationships, October 23, 2023

The counselor is also an author!

Nathaniel Chua is the author of 

Better People, Better Country: A Psychological Blueprint for a New Philippines,

published under the pen name Starfly Chua.
The pen name was chosen in homage to his grandfather and his ethnic Chinese roots, and reflects a preference for allowing ideas to stand on their own—without emphasis on personal visibility or status.

Here are selected endorsements from international colleagues and clinical experts:

This book is a fascinating personal exploration and cultural adaptation of contextual behavioral science applied to psychotherapy. It takes you, with great clarity and humility, from the philosophical foundations of functional contextualism all the way to its practical applications in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. The way it addresses the challenges of psychological well-being in the Philippines makes it a particularly valuable contribution.

Dr. Matthieu Villatte, PhD, Co-author of Mastering the Clinical Conversation: Language as Intervention

Better People, Better Country offers a transformative shift in perspective, moving from rigid cultural rules that invite moral shaming toward one of contextual understanding. Both deeply personal and extensively practical, Starfly Chua provides a psychosocial blueprint for change and progress at multiple levels of human existence. This book is an invaluable resource for the people of the Philippines because it moves beyond the exhausted cycle of demanding ‘better people’ and instead provides the tools to build ‘better contexts’ — systems that naturally support prosocial values that benefit citizens and country alike.
 
Lou Lasprugato, MFT
Peer-Reviewed ACT Trainer
 
For far too long, theories of human behavior and psychology have been relegated to the therapy room, used in private, and often at the individual level. We now have advanced psychological theories that can explain and help foster change at the societal level.
Chua reaches for the same shining star that famed behavior analyst B.F. Skinner once reached for, applying cutting edge behavior change technology to the community at large—not just for the purposes of greater mental health—but for more workable societies. Chua doesn’t just reach for this star, he grasps it firmly. Laid out in this book is a set of common sense reforms that could revolutionize the Philippines and the world at an achievable cost: our own willingness.
 
Jacob Martinez 
Practicing Counselor
Wisconsin, USA
 

Nathaniel Chua is also a member of an international organization called the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS). He once became chair of the Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion Special Interest Group (DEI-SIG) of ACBS; the first Non-North American to do so.

 

 

Nathaniel Chua has a Master’s Degree in Counseling and continues to learn more of the most cutting-edge approaches to working with the human condition.

Below is Nathaniel Chua’s first virtual talk held on November 17, 2023 in front of an international group of therapists from Low or Middle Income Countries (LMIC).  He is the first from the Philippines to do this:

What is One Life Only Counseling about?

  • We value and respect your privacy and we keep what you share confidential.
  • You will be respected regardless of your religion, gender preference, ethnicity, economic status, and even your personal lifestyle and values. We are LGBTQIA+ friendly!  
  • Your counselor will not impose their values and beliefs on you.  We welcome people from all faith traditions—or even none at all.  We understand that spirituality and belief can be deeply personal, sometimes a source of strength, and at other times a place of struggle.  Our goal is not to impose but to create space where your values, practices, and questions are respected. Whatever faith tradition you belong to, you are invited to bring your whole self into the counseling process.

Nathaniel Chua, MA

Functional Contextualist Therapist 

The Philippines’ ACT & IBCT Specialist

  • We mainly use ACT and IBCT which are both models of therapy that are based on functional contextualism – a science-based approach that focuses on what works in your unique life context.  Both approaches help individuals, couples, and families move past stuck patterns, handle difficult emotions, and build more meaningful lives and relationships.

What is functional contextualism?

Functional contextualism starts with this simple truth: behaviors don’t happen in a vacuum. Every action, every thought, every feeling occurs in your unique context — and all of them serve a purpose.

What we mean by behavior?

Behavior isn’t just what you do outwardly. It also includes inner actions like thinking, remembering, or imagining. Some behaviors can be observed; others happen quietly inside you.

What we mean by context?

Context is more than the physical space you’re in. It includes your personal history, your memories, and the people who have shaped your life — whether they’re with you now or live only in your mind.

What we mean by function or purpose?

Every behavior is influenced by what happens before and after it. The “function” is the role that behavior plays in helping you cope, adapt, or move toward something important to you.

What we don’t believe or practice:

We don’t see you as “broken” or as a set of symptoms to fix. Outside of major physical damage or impairment, there’s no solid science proving that everyday behavior is caused by some permanent biological flaw.
You’re not a checklist of traits scored four-out-of-seven or five-out-of-nine. You’re a complex, whole, and freely choosing individual whose actions make sense in the context of your life.

Beyond Diagnostic Labels

We don’t use DSM diagnoses because your life is more than a checklist of symptoms.  Real change begins with understanding your whole story, not fitting you into a category.

Medication as a Last Resort

While medication can sometimes be necessary, it’s never the first step we recommend.  We focus on approaches that build lasting strength, skills, and choice – empowering you without unnecessary dependence.

You’re More Than a Number

We don’t use psychometric testing, because no score can capture who you are.  We choose to listen, explore, and work with you through open, genuine conversations that honor your unique journey.

An Approach That is Recognized by the WHO!

The approach we use is also one that is endorsed by the World Health Organization as an effective psychological tool for coping with any kind of life crises!  It can be described as a kind of psychological vaccine that has been found to be effective in improving and promoting mental resilience in the face of many, if not all kinds of life challenges.  

Here’s a paraphrase from Dr. Steven C. Hayes in my interview with him on April 5th, 2022:

“Here’s what the World Health Organization, the best public health and scientific group in the world says about this protocol, this extensively tested protocol is helpful for anyone who is stressed, for any reason, in any circumstance.”

Since being established in 2009, it was in 2019 that we have been very excited to offer this type of a radically different approach to therapy that is not just about relieving symptoms, but also about helping people towards creating lives imbued with meaning and purpose.

Here’s a video about what makes One Life Only Counseling Services different:

You can read the written version of this video through this link: https://www.onelifeonly.net/about/what-makes-one-life-only-counseling-services-different/

Here is a recent interview for an article on Philstar Life featuring Nathaniel Chua and a legal practitioner about marital sexual consent:

https://philstarlife.com/news-and-views/928796-consent-rape-marriage-explainer

May 14, 2025 Nathan Chua was one of two guest resource persons at the UST campus with third year psychology students. Topic was about bulimia and anorexia.

 

Recent certificate given to Nathan Chua for presenting a talk about couple’s therapy in front an international audience of therapists from Low or Middle Income Country (LMIC).  He is the first and so far the only one from the Philippines to accomplish this.

Nathan Chua is probably one of the very few therapists in the Philippines who’s been on mainstream media to talk about ACT and functional contextualism in a way that stays faithful to the model.

Being faithful to the model means therapy isn’t about throwing techniques together like ingredients in a salad.  The “therapy salad” approach mixes bits and pieces without coherence, often leaving clients confused.  An integrative approach, on the other hand, is guided by a unifying framework – methods are chosen and blended with purpose, creating a clear, consistent direction that serves client’s goals.  

In other words, therapy isn’t about randomly mixing different techniques.  That can feel confusing, like tossing ingredients together without a recipe.  An integrative approach means everything fits together with a clear purpose – so the tools and methods used actually connect and support your journey.

Every step we take together has a purpose, not just a mix of techniques.

Here are some of the testimonials that people have given for our work. 

From a parent:

My son was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder. He’s been undergoing therapy each year between June to September. He’s given synthetic meds in between therapy but i am not seeing consistent progress.
We needed to find a psychiatric support that can really help him.

It was a blessing indeed when i met one of the resource speaker from our community event that introduced us to sir Nathaniel.

Here’s an excerpt from my son’s long message to me …. “learning a lot through this therapy and had a ton of realizations din so i wanna say thank u so much ma…”

One life Only counselling services is truly effective and i hope it can help more people who suffers from mental health concerns.

From a partner:

Nathan is amazing! We learned so much about our relationship in just a few sessions. He also gives reading references, which helps a lot to navigate the information he provides in his session. Overall, would recommend to any couple in need of counselling.

From a husband:

Me and my wife ran into a bad patch due to outside pressure put onto our marriage.
I decided to book a set of appointments with one life and I can say it help so much I wish we went years ago. We have an amazing marriage and friendship.
Best thing we ever did.

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Interview with Julius Babao and Christine Bersola Babao, October 25, 2023
Guest resource person with Boy Abunda on his show The Bottomline
July 2024 interview on Kapuso Mo Jessica Soho about jealousy and anger

He has also done interviews on YouTube with the developers of ACT and IBCT.

Interview with Dr. Steven C. Hayes, the developer of ACT, April 5, 2022
Interview with Dr. Andrew Christensen May 14, 2022

Here is a live interview on Kada Umaga on Net 25 starting at the 25 minute mark:

Here’s a solo interview of Nathan Chua with an ACT Matrix Expert and Counselor from the United States, Jacob Martinez:

Interviews with the experts:

Here are two interviews with the two experts that have had a huge impact on my work in recent years.  They are with Dr. Steven Hayes and Dr. Andrew Christensen.  Here are the videos:

YouTube Interviews

Interview with Dr. Steven Hayes, developer of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy!

Interview with Dr. Andrew Christensen, developer of Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy

My interview with Ms. Mhet Minon for Sonshine Radio about, “Confidence in a Time of Crisis.”

My interview with Dr. Matthieu Villatte, PhD who is an Assistant Professor at Bastyr University in Seattle, WA in the United States. He obtained his doctoral degree in psychology in France, where he was trained as a clinical psychologist. He moved to the US in 2010 to complete a post-doctoral fellowship at the University of Nevada, Reno under the mentorship of Steven Hayes, PhD.

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Why Good People Break: A Psychological View of Les Miserables

If you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or constantly misunderstood…you don’t have to go through it alone.

In Les Misérables, Jean Valjean transforms after an act of compassion… while Inspector Javert cannot — even when shown mercy.

Many struggles in relationships, anger, anxiety, or burnout are not signs of weakness…
but understandable responses to painful life experiences.

Clarity and support can make a powerful difference.

If you or someone you care about is going through a difficult time, professional counseling can help you move forward with greater understanding, strength, and compassion.

Send a private message at +63 917 886 5433 to inquire or book a session.
Confidential and judgment-free.
Online sessions available.

This vlog explores powerful lessons from film and real life.

You don’t have to wait until things feel overwhelming to seek support.

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Being In Love or Being Loving? A Behavioral Look at Love – A Valentine’s Reflection

As Valentine’s Day approaches, we often ask: Are we still in love?
But psychology invites a quieter, more helpful question:
Are we being loving?

In this vlog, I explore the difference between being in love and being loving—not as a moral judgment, but as a practical way of understanding relationships.

Travel, dates, and special moments can make love feel easy.
But everyday life—stress, conflict, responsibility—creates a very different context.

This video looks at:

Why love often feels effortless in pleasant situations
Why relationships struggle in the day-to-day grind
How your relationship itself is a context, not just a feeling
Why being loving can serve as a compass when emotions fluctuate

This is not relationship advice or a checklist for couples.
It’s an invitation to look at love through a behavioral and humane lens—one that helps relationships hold up not just during the highs, but through the vicissitudes of life.

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Being in love is a feeling. Being loving is a practice. Travel, dates, and special moments make love feel easy. Daily life—stress, conflict, responsibility—tests whether a relationship can hold. This reflection looks at love not as emotion alone, but as something we do, especially when it’s hard. A Valentine’s reminder: your feelings may change, but your compass doesn’t have to. 🔗 onelifeonly.net BeingLoving Relationships ValentinesDay LoveTalk Couples HealthyRelationships Psychology

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The Dog Whistle We Don’t Hear in Motivational Speaking

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The kind of advice we don’t question. Ever notice how some motivational advice feels inspiring at first… then oddly heavy later? This video looks at a subtle pattern most of us feel, but rarely name. ▶️ Watch till the end. Motivation PsychologyTok MentalHealthPH SelfHelp #ThinkDeeper LifeAdvice PersonalGrowth FilipinoTikTok

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Bakit Mabigat ang Payo ng Nakatataas? Why Advice from Authority Figures Feels So Heavy

https://www.tiktok.com/@onelifeonlycounseling/video/7594425580230102293?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7526745861453219348

Solving Corruption Psychologically…Contextually!

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Solving Corruption Psychologically…Contextually! Why does corruption survive no matter who we elect… or how many new rules we create? In this video, I explain corruption through a behavioral and cultural lens — not politics. No partisanship. No personalities. Just the psychology and context behind why our system keeps producing the same problems. Here’s the truth: 🔸 Low-trust societies accumulate corruption — even without evil people. 🔸 More rules often create more bottlenecks… and more shortcuts. 🔸 Culture can block good governance even when plans are smart. 🔸 Real change begins with context — not fear, not shame, not moralizing. If you want a fresh, science-based explanation of why corruption persists in the Philippines — and what actually builds cooperation — watch this. Better People, Better Country. But better people come from better contexts.

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Why confronting the third party doesn’t heal infidelity

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💔 Why Confronting the Third Party Doesn’t Heal Infidelity | ACT + IBCT Perspective When betrayal happens, the first impulse is often the loudest: “Harapin ko na yung third party. Para matapos na.” But in couples therapy — and in real life — this move rarely builds trust. It often creates distance, fuels defensiveness, and shifts the focus away from the only place where healing and trust can actually grow: the relationship itself. In this video, I explain: 🔹 Why confronting the third party usually backfires Through ACT and RFT principles, you’ll see how this move provides short-term relief but undermines long-term trust. 🔹 The unified-detachment question that changes everything Does this action build a bridge to trust… or drive a wedge between you and your partner? 🔹 A powerful metaphor Trying to fix a relationship by confronting the third party is like fixing your neighbor’s roof to stop your own house from leaking — it gives activity, not clarity. 🔹 What actually helps couples rebuild trust You’ll learn what Christensen et al. emphasize: Healing happens in conversations between partners, not between a partner and the third party. 🔹 A compassionate, non-moralistic view There are no absolute rules. What matters is what works to create safety, honesty, and willingness — not what feels good in the moment. ✨ For Therapists and Clients Alike Whether you’re navigating infidelity or supporting someone who is, this episode offers a grounded, functional contextual approach that avoids blame and focuses on what builds real security. 👉 Watch until the end for a reflection exercise you can use immediately. 📌 About Nathaniel (One Life Only Counseling Services) I help individuals and couples move from fear-driven reactions to values-driven actions — using ACT, RFT, and Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT). No labels. No DSM diagnoses. Just real processes that work. 🔔 Subscribe & Follow If this resonates, subscribe for more vlogs on ACT, RFT, IBCT, relationships, and everyday psychological flexibility.#fyp #counselingphilippines #foryou #PsychologyVlog #counseling #onelifeonlycounseling

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What to do when jealousy strikes your relationship?

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What to do when jealousy strikes your relationship? Jealousy is one of the most painful emotions in a relationship. It can make one partner shrink their world out of fear… and push the other partner into panic, defensiveness, and exhaustion. In this video, counselor Nathan Chua (One Life Only Counseling Services) explains jealousy through a contextual behavioral lens (ACT + IBCT) — showing why jealousy narrows our world, how fear takes over, and how partners can respond from values instead of panic. You’ll learn: ❤️ What jealousy is really trying to protect ❤️ Why interrogation, control, and defensiveness make things worse ❤️ How to use the “friend experiment” to guide healthier choices ❤️ How the wrongly-accused metaphor helps partners act with dignity ❤️ Why relationships improve when love — not fear — takes the lead Remember: No relationship gets healthier by obeying fear. It gets healthier when partners act from the kind of love they want to stand for… even when fear is in the room. #OneLifeOnlyCounseling NathanielChua ACTtherapy IBCT JealousyInRelationships RelationshipAdvice ContextMatters LoveAndFear MentalHealthAwareness PsychologicalFlexibility CouplesTherapy#fyp #counselingphilippines #foryou #PsychologyVlog #counseling #onelifeonlycounseling

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Jealousy is one of the most painful emotions in a relationship.
It can make one partner shrink their world out of fear…
and push the other partner into panic, defensiveness, and exhaustion.

In this video, counselor Nathan Chua (One Life Only Counseling Services) explains jealousy through a contextual behavioral lens (ACT + IBCT) — showing why jealousy narrows our world, how fear takes over, and how partners can respond from values instead of panic.

You’ll learn:

❤️ What jealousy is really trying to protect
❤️ Why interrogation, control, and defensiveness make things worse
❤️ How to use the “friend experiment” to guide healthier choices
❤️ How the wrongly-accused metaphor helps partners act with dignity
❤️ Why relationships improve when love — not fear — takes the lead

Remember:
No relationship gets healthier by obeying fear.
It gets healthier when partners act from the kind of love they want to stand for…
even when fear is in the room.

#OneLifeOnlyCounseling #NathanielChua
#ACTtherapy #IBCT #JealousyInRelationships
#RelationshipAdvice #ContextMatters
#LoveAndFear #MentalHealthAwareness
#PsychologicalFlexibility #CouplesTherapy

Has Psychology Lost its Soul?

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Has Psychology Lost its Soul? When a person is in pain, we rush to name it. We call it depression, trauma, narcissism. And when someone speaks about it, we ask: “Are they qualified?” Somehow, we’ve turned understanding into a privilege — guarded by titles, diagnoses, and institutional approval. But psychology, at its heart, was never meant to be a priesthood. It was meant to be a language of compassion — a way for all of us to understand what it means to be human. In this video, counselor Nathaniel Chua of One Life Only Counseling Services reflects on how modern psychology may have lost its soul — and how functional contextualism (the science behind Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) offers a way back. It’s a call to move beyond labels, diagnoses, and hallowed titles — toward a kind of psychology that belongs not to experts, but to everyone who is learning to understand themselves and others. “We don’t need more experts. We need more understanding.” – Steven C. Hayes 🎧 Watch or listen to the full reflection on One Life Only Counseling Services: www.onelifeonly.net. HasPsychologyLostItsSoul #OneLifeOnlyCounseling NathanielChua ACTtherapy IBCT FunctionalContextualism StevenHayes AcceptanceAndCommitmentTherapy ContextMatters MentalHealthAwareness TherapyPhilippines BeyondLabels HumanUnderstanding ValuesBasedLiving PsychologicalFlexibility MeaningfulPsychology#fyp #foryou #counselingphilippines #PsychologyVlog #counseling #onelifeonlycounseling

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When a person is in pain, we rush to name it.

 We call it depression, trauma, narcissism.

 And when someone speaks about it, we ask: “Are they qualified?”

Somehow, we’ve turned understanding into a privilege — guarded by titles, diagnoses, and institutional approval.

 But psychology, at its heart, was never meant to be a priesthood.

 It was meant to be a language of compassion — a way for all of us to understand what it means to be human.

In this video, counselor Nathaniel Chua of One Life Only Counseling Services reflects on how modern psychology may have lost its soul — and how functional contextualism (the science behind Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) offers a way back.

It’s a call to move beyond labels, diagnoses, and hallowed titles —

 toward a kind of psychology that belongs not to experts,

 but to everyone who is learning to understand themselves and others.

“We don’t need more experts.

 We need more understanding.” – Steven C. Hayes

🎧 Watch or listen to the full reflection on One Life Only Counseling Services: www.onelifeonly.net.

 

#HasPsychologyLostItsSoul #OneLifeOnlyCounseling #NathanielChua #ACTtherapy #IBCT #FunctionalContextualism #StevenHayes #AcceptanceAndCommitmentTherapy #ContextMatters #MentalHealthAwareness #TherapyPhilippines #BeyondLabels #HumanUnderstanding #ValuesBasedLiving #PsychologicalFlexibility #MeaningfulPsychology